"Sticky" notes to unstick our grievances....
Yesterday, admist my research work, I was in need of Sticky Notes (one of the best innovation) to mark some papers and I marked the important ones, and I got relaxed that in future, I only have to go through those marked sticky notes..
This simple routine of using sticky notes gave me a thought that can we have some platform in home and / or office like a wall of 'sticky notes' to unstick our disturbing thoughts / emotions / grievances towards each other...? Cant we simply write our complaints on those walls and leave it aside so that they don't bother us or our minds and hearts?.
While largely observing families across the globe, I realize that many of us don't even talk or share our family dilemmas and the thoughts keeps on burning us or our bodies and minds...Why we are not able to even pour out our hearts to let each other know - be it family member or be it office colleague and communicate them about each others dilemmas? Why we wait that other person should understand our thought processes? Why cant we unstick our grievances with our close ones and live happy moments...
...I feel that whoever we are, in whatever capacity, with whatever educational degrees we have, we are simple human beings having a very limited time and if we keep one such wall / one such area where every week, we unstick our grievances (which are bound to anyway happen), we can live more happily and healthily...
I have started unsticking my dilemmas by communicating to respective folks,,,what about you???
This simple routine of using sticky notes gave me a thought that can we have some platform in home and / or office like a wall of 'sticky notes' to unstick our disturbing thoughts / emotions / grievances towards each other...? Cant we simply write our complaints on those walls and leave it aside so that they don't bother us or our minds and hearts?.
While largely observing families across the globe, I realize that many of us don't even talk or share our family dilemmas and the thoughts keeps on burning us or our bodies and minds...Why we are not able to even pour out our hearts to let each other know - be it family member or be it office colleague and communicate them about each others dilemmas? Why we wait that other person should understand our thought processes? Why cant we unstick our grievances with our close ones and live happy moments...
...I feel that whoever we are, in whatever capacity, with whatever educational degrees we have, we are simple human beings having a very limited time and if we keep one such wall / one such area where every week, we unstick our grievances (which are bound to anyway happen), we can live more happily and healthily...
I have started unsticking my dilemmas by communicating to respective folks,,,what about you???
Grievances are like poison. You drink it thinking that it will kill the enemy/ other person. It’s important to communicate and sort out the differences and understand from all the sides. Everyone does the best they can and heart to heart clarification would ensure issues don’t pile up.
ReplyDeleteThe Jain rituals of daily reflection in form of pratikraman or even just plain going over the day in the mental movie and giving and asking for forgiveness “Michchami Dukaddam” would help start the next day afresh.
yes, I also believe that we need to communicate. Thanks for pointing out the important point of seeking forgiveness! Jainism is all about that. The main dilemma of major families is not communicating at all.
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